Whether we wear our hair natural or relaxed, we need to be aware of the messages that we send to our children. A child should never feel bad because they have "nappy" hair.
We have to listen to the things that we say. Words like "Whew, you look a mess, your hair is so nappy" send negative messages that get embedded into the minds of our children. We have to be careful not to unconsciously plant word-seeds that we really don't mean to plant.
Our little girls should feel great about who they are, and about how God made them. Nappy hair is not bad hair. As my mother used to say "God made nappy, and God don't make no junk!"